Being apart physically from someone often leads to speaking more through the medium of texts and Facebook chat, which is great but carries risks. This is especially when you’re at the beginning of a relationship so even if you know and love each other you don’t quite know the other person’s sensitivities, what words and phrases are going to particularly upset them or why. So you must reinforce that you said what you said out of love but still explain yourself and your choice of words so you can move forward with a mutual understanding.
It makes it even more difficult when you’re at a stage of life at which loads of opportunities are opened up and you want to get out there and experience everything possible but if you’re not careful, the other person will feel left out and as if their opinion does not matter. One must not forget this. To me the ideal relationship involves, both doing whatever they please but respecting the other’s opinions, asking and acknowledging them yet ultimately supporting and loving each other even when we disagree. You’re equal parts of a couple not parent and child. Be careful how you talk about this, especially when using systems that are difficult to express emotions through.
Don’t forget that a person who wants to take care of you, does it because they love you. They love YOU, the individual, the independent human being, the messy ball of issues and madness that you are and they want to protect that. There’s no use in arguing over misunderstood ways of phrasing other then to make sure it doesn’t happen again, it shouldn’t be a be all and end all though; love’s too important to give up so easily.