I don’t believe in good and bad people because that would make me a judge and only God can judge. I believe in seeing the good in everything and everyone because God is in everything and everyone.
Everyone comes from somewhere and has justifications for why they are the way they are whether you agree or not. Remember that next time you come across a stranger. I try to.
Approaching the edge of my educational life, knowing full well the joy of fantastic results I’ve really worked for and the despair and demotivating nature of bad ones, I look back and see the common thread of it all has been working hard and not giving up. This is something that I’ve had to take in to the world of work too, that I have began to dabble in.
It has been really difficult and it’s not going to get easier, I’ve come to accept this but I’ve also decided that self belief and strong relationships are so incredibly important. I have never thought myself to be the most attractive, the smartest, the most popular, the greatest in anyway but I know that we are fearfully and wonderfully made so we can do anything. Yes, sometimes, often even one must try and try again and yes, the definition of madness is trying something again and again and expecting a different result but we’re all mad here! A support system gets you through, self belief starts you off.
Do not be afraid; only believe.
Being apart physically from someone often leads to speaking more through the medium of texts and Facebook chat, which is great but carries risks. This is especially when you’re at the beginning of a relationship so even if you know and love each other you don’t quite know the other person’s sensitivities, what words and phrases are going to particularly upset them or why. So you must reinforce that you said what you said out of love but still explain yourself and your choice of words so you can move forward with a mutual understanding.
It makes it even more difficult when you’re at a stage of life at which loads of opportunities are opened up and you want to get out there and experience everything possible but if you’re not careful, the other person will feel left out and as if their opinion does not matter. One must not forget this. To me the ideal relationship involves, both doing whatever they please but respecting the other’s opinions, asking and acknowledging them yet ultimately supporting and loving each other even when we disagree. You’re equal parts of a couple not parent and child. Be careful how you talk about this, especially when using systems that are difficult to express emotions through.
Don’t forget that a person who wants to take care of you, does it because they love you. They love YOU, the individual, the independent human being, the messy ball of issues and madness that you are and they want to protect that. There’s no use in arguing over misunderstood ways of phrasing other then to make sure it doesn’t happen again, it shouldn’t be a be all and end all though; love’s too important to give up so easily.
As I get older, I’m realising that I no longer have a ‘best friend’. This is because, those I referred to as best friend are my only friends really, I’ve grown up and grown over drama and hassle and being treated poorly with double standards. Everyone deserves to have moments of being sad, angry, burt, snappy, drunk, moody, aggressive, tired, boring, pessimistic and still be wanted, loved, not judged and forgiven. You should be able to be the older version of yourself, the most negative version of yourself, the most immature version, the most needy, the best, the worst and still not be challenged, confronted or not forgiven even if the only positive alternative is be forgiven and forgotten.
Forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us. 70×7 times.
Are you fighting for something that is worth it, or are you just too stubborn to let go? Negativity is not necessary in anyone’s life. It’s not necessarily selfish to let go, it can be beneficial for both involved. It can be hard and difficult but worth it. The struggle of saying good bye only means you’ve been lucky to have positivity in your life at some point. Everyone deserves happiness and friends and everyone will find them at some point, just be patient, be aware and don’t be afraid to have high standards to stick to.